Should i tell my boyfriend i was 550 pounds?

so im 26 years old and i have been dating this guy for a 3 months now and we are taking things slow, but so far things are great. he is cute, funny and so sweet. yesterday we got together and we were talking about what we were like in high school. he told me he was scrawny, a hipster, and loved music. i told him was artsy, bubbly, and petite, when really that was a complete lie. growing up i was morbidly obese. i was a 400 pound freshman and i graduated highschool at 550 pounds. i didnt have a dad and i had a skinny older sister and mom who always made fun of me for my weight, so i always turned to food for comfort. Just as a teen, i had breathing and heart problems and it hurt just to stand up. I will always remember this, when i was 18 i went to the doctor and i was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and he told me if i didnt lose weight i would be dead by the time i was 20. i started dieting and slowly started dieting and now 8 years later im 120 pounds and i dont have diabetes anymore, so i have lost in total 430 pounds. i still keep my old clothes to remind myself how far iv come. i dont like to tell people about my weight loss story because im kind of embarressed by it. i dont want people to know i used to weigh a quarter of a ton. Unfortunately, i still have stretch marks and the scars from my surgery to remove my loose skin, so no matter what the stretch marks and scars will never go away and thats why when i look into the mirror i still see that fat girl. i feel like right now him and i are in the phase of our relationship in which we should be completely honest with each other, but im afraid if i tell him il just scare him off. should i tell him?

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You need to just tell him. It'll be uncomfortable and scary, but if you wait until you're closer and in deeper, it'll just be worst. Tell him that you need to come clean about something, and explain what you've put up here. You are running a risk of losing him, but it's better to be honest now than suffer through a relationship knowing that the truth is eventually going to come out anyway.I'm in a similar situation, where I lost a 100 lbs but still have all sorts of stretch marks.Good luck- don't be scared, there are plenty of guys that will love you 100% flaws and all. You'll be absolutely perfect to them, so if this doesn't work out it just means he wasn't the right one for you.

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• Tell him with confidence. It sad to see someone so obese but even sadder to see them not do anything about it. You showed you're a hard working girl and everyone likes that, someone who gives a sh*t about her health and doesn't give up. People who think being overweight they're still just as good as the next person are kiddin themselves. It's no longer about beauty it's health.You did an awesome job and did what many people wish they could do. Tell him the story with confidence!
• IDK if this is real or not, but if it is, why not tell him? It won't make a difference. That would show him you're a strong person. And if he's attracted to you now, then why would knowing your past make you less attractive? That's something to be proud of, not embarrassed.
• I admire you for your courage to go through what you did. The best thing to do is to make a copy of your Y/A question, and give it to him. But I may be completely wrong.
• If he truly loves you then telling him this story shouldn't affect how he feels about you. You have come a long way since then and you have most probably changed as a person too. After all you went through, have come a long way overcoming your issues to be the place you are today. If he doesn't accept this then he is obviously not worthy of you! I'm sure that if he is a decent man then he will understand and accept you for the person you are now. You should tell him and be confident with yourself because you are an inspiration!Hope this helps! :) x
• tell him the truth. Im having trouble loosing 40 lbs. loosing that much weight is a real accomplishment and if he doesn't like you then skew him hes no good for you anyway.